The Girl/Boy debate..

I have seen a few posts recently about the girl/boy debate and how people felt about it.

Before today I never thought anything of this topic. Until today that it.

Our family has been in a bit of a baby drought the past few years. Something that has dramatically changed in the last three years.

A total of 3 boys and one girl, all within a year of each other (ranging from 3 years to 4 months) they have all come along like buses.

Next year marks the arrival of yet another grandchild (so that will be 5 in total) this ones another girl.

The response my relative received about having two children, on of each gender got me thinking.

Is it the be all and end all really to have a child in each gender?

 

The NHS doesn’t offer gender scans, they will tell you the gender at your 20-week scan, but they don’t have to. Confirming gender isn’t relevant to the NHS, ensuring your baby is in the best health is.

You can pay to have a private 16-week gender scan, and this is something we have done with both pregnancies. Some people like to keep the sex as a surprise. I’m far to nosey for that. I also like to plan bits like clothes and nursery themes etc.

When the midwife told me Kai was a boy, I felt disappointed for a second. Honestly, it was over in a heartbeat. Yes, a little girl would have been nice on the one hand as we already had a boy. Was it the end of the world, no not at all.

Now that I have my boy’s I couldn’t think of a more perfect scenario. There are so many pros’s to have same gender siblings:

  • Finally having two boys was much better for us, we already had all the gear.
  • The boys will be able to bond over toys etc. once they are older. They will likely be into the same thing like cars and dinosaurs.
  • The boys are 19 months apart and I think will be firm pals when there older.
Max won’t get the opportunity to be the protective older brother to a sister, but he sure will be a protective older brother to his little bro Kai.
There’s more to family life than wanting to reach that goal of having “one of each”.
I’m the mummy of sons and I don’t think I’d have it any other way.
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7 Comments

  1. December 4, 2016 / 8:27 am

    I haven’t thought much about the boy/girl debate either but found your post interesting to read. We come from a family with ‘one of each’ ‘a pigeon pair’ they call it? Only 18 months apart , from experience:

    -we reused most of the baby gear. Sleeping bags, chewy toys, playmates, baby vests and sleepsuits- they’re for bed so our little girl didn’t seem to mind the odd train or dinosaur.

    -The children bond over the same toys and have similar likes (and different ones) we have a variety of toys in the house and both children adore non gender specific toys, cars, dinosaurs, diggers but also the toy kitchen play food, tea set,, baby dolls, cuddly animals. We have noticed gender plays no role and the children both enjoy playing imaginatively with all the toys. When our little girl was born our son was given his own ‘baby doll’ to look after and cuddle just like mummy. Our children’s favourite toys are trains and they share in this together regardless of gender. (Phew)

    -They are 18 months apart and regardless of gender are thick as thieves and the best of friends. I hope this is something that continues as they get older.

    We find all 3 points you raise about the same sex siblings applies to our one of each 🙂

    • Kris
      December 4, 2016 / 8:40 am

      Thanks for stopping by Natasha. Its great to also see it from the other side. It sounds like your pair are ging to be fast friends 🙂

  2. December 4, 2016 / 8:33 am

    Sorry for the typo that should read *playmats* not playmates although they also have the same friends due to their close age gap, another pro 🙂

  3. December 5, 2016 / 12:46 pm

    We didn’t find out with our two (girls) as we really didn’t mind either way. My parents have 5 daughters, no sons, and are always asked if they would have liked a son, or if they had so many children as they were trying for a boy. They say they had their hands full with 5 girls, never mind throwing a boy into the mix!

    If we have another baby I really don’t mind . There are pros and cons to each – it would be nice to have 3 girls, it would also be nice to have a boy. One benefit of having 2 girls is we do save on clothes and toys!

  4. March 24, 2017 / 8:18 am

    I have a feeling I will have another boy (if I’m lucky enough to have another child).

  5. March 24, 2017 / 7:47 pm

    I love this post so much, like you I was far too nosey not to find out!

  6. March 24, 2017 / 9:09 pm

    I’m a little terrified at the thought of having a girl next time. I feel like I know what to do with a boy and boy bits! That and, like you said, we’ve got all the boy stuff already. I love my boy and I’d love to see him have a brother OR a sister. I really couldn’t care less which we get!

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