Max is the perfect toddler, polite kind and funny…. in public that is!
He is quite the performer when were out and about and we constantly get comments from strangers about how well behaved he is, or how well he speaks. You would be lead to believe that he really is a pillar of the toddlerhood.
Ok now to spoil the fantasy of this well turned out kid, sometimes (ok 80% of the time) he is NAUGHTY! Gentle parents will prob hate me for using that word, but there is no other to describe his behaviour sometimes.
Often when we are at home he is a freaking nightmare. He is a twonager through and through, sometimes (ok most times) he really doesn’t know if he’s coming or going. He wants the red cup no the blue cup no the red cup.
If this stage of his life is anything to go by then I am absolutely dreading when he becomes a teenager for real because honestly, this is too much now.
I have days where I can’t take the whingeing or the crying or the general craziness. Sometimes Max can be so naughty but I’m kind of realising that ITS OK!
Its ok for him to not feel the need to be this perfect kid all the time.
Feeling and expressing his emotions is all a part of growing up. I think it’s important to keep in mind that he is a 2 and a half-year-old he doesn’t understand the way his feeling. Sometimes the only way he can express himself is to cry or hit or scream.
Having patience with my toddler is something I really am working every day. I don’t want to be that shouty mum who constantly tells her kid off. So here are a few things I’ve learned in the 2 and a half years of Max’s life:
- Pick your battles: I found that I was just telling Max off all the time for every little thing. It was just making both of us crazy. So yes I do still discipline him and if he does something that puts himself or others in danger. It’s all about picking the battles, otherwise, he will just not take any notice when he’s being told of because it happens just too often.
- Distraction: When Max is playing up I try and use distraction as a key tool to stop him from feeling the emotion that’s making him act out. If he’s haveing a whinge and I can see where its going then ill try and distract him by smothering him with kisses or singing at the top of my voice (which usually drives him mad but highly amuses Kai).
- Have plenty of activities available: If we are having a day indoors and I have a few household chores to get on with then I have to make sure there is enough to keep the toddler occupied. If the weather is nice then he loves playing in the garden we are getting quite a collection of toys out there (sandbox, cozy coupes and his scooter to name a few, but a simple football can occupy him for ages). When it rains we love to crack open the playdoh or even better aquadoodle (which is the best invention EVER).
As the boys get older were all just going to have to learn to co-exist with each other.
To help and encourage both boys to be able to express their emotions and to understand they never have to keep anything bottled inside.
How do you deal with your toddler’s tantrums? I’m always eager to learn from other experienced mums.
Max is who he is and I honestly wouldn’t change him for the world!