How becoming a Mum helped me overcome my social anxiety.

As a child, I was a total social butterfly. My nickname was chatterbox, I would talk ten to the dozen and you would struggle to get me to shut up. I was such a sociable child, coming from a big family this came second nature to me.

Then hit the teen stage and it was all about secondary school and trying to make friends when most people were already part of cliques. I had never considered myself one of the pretty girls, my high forehead and glasses didn’t help with that perspective.

I actually went years without wearing my glasses when out and about because I felt they made me ugly. I would rather be blind than look in my teenager opinion like a geek. Ironically the geek look is quite popular nowadays, how times change.

 

I stuck to a few close friends and didn’t really put myself out there. It’s a trait that has stuck with me for many years.

When you have kid’s you have no choice but to put yourself out there, you do it for them!! You leave all your stupid hang up’s at the door and you force yourself to go to that play group or class.

My midwife appointments were at the local children’s centre and I noticed each week there seemed to be a singing class for the babies next door. Intrigued I started taking Max when he was 7 weeks old ( he only stopped attending classes there recently). The children’s centre hosted a whole range of different things for the kids to do. For me it was a life saver, parenting can be a lonely place for a first time mum, it really doesn’t have to be.

Through the various classes (Massage, Yoga, Sing and Sign) we made a lot of lovely mummy friends. It wasn’t the easiest thing in the world to do but I just made sure I put myself out there and got involved. Their babies were all a little older than Max but we were soon heading to the pub for lunch or hitting the park with the little ones.Most of the mums went back to work which was a little sad, we missed our little mummy clique.

We still all talk and meet up now nearly 2 years later.

Would my journey have been different without all the classes we attended with Max and have begun now with Kai, absolutely!

I like to think Max will be friend’s with the other kids for a long time to come.

This post was first seen on Meet Other Mums.

 

This post was first seen on Meet Other Mums

2 Comments

  1. January 31, 2017 / 11:02 am

    I totally agree, I think children often give us the push to take ourselves out of our comfort zone and do things we may not otherwise do.

  2. Zoe
    January 31, 2017 / 1:39 pm

    I haven’t the experience, but that’s definitely a nice heads up and joining a parenting group sounds really beneficial (when the time comes!)

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